Photo Credit: Katherine C. Cohen, Boston Children’s Hospital
Samantha’s Story: Partnering with the BACPAC Program to End Bullying
By Maureen McCarthy, Boston Children’s Hospital
When Samantha was 10 years old, she was bullied by a male classmate. She remembers walking through the halls of her elementary school and hearing these words: “Why are you on this earth? You don’t deserve to be alive.” The bullying followed her every day.
“I didn’t want to go to school because I knew he would be there. I was afraid,” says Samantha, now 11. Weeks into the school year, the harassment and intimidation escalated and turned physical. “It was usually mental [abuse], but at one point in fifth grade the bully came up to me, and he punched me on the back,” says Samantha quietly. This was the breaking point. “I had enough,” says Samantha’s mother Karen. “The verbal and physical abuse needed to stop.”
Samantha and her mother reported the incident to the school and the police resource officer. Another student, who witnessed the physical bullying, stepped forward and also reported the incident to the school. The bully was reprimanded by the officer; however, no further action was taken by Samantha’s school. Although the daily torment ended, Samantha’s respite was temporary.
The bully’s verbal aggression resurfaced, and it started to impact Samantha’s schoolwork, self-esteem and overall health. Karen says her daughter exhibited many of the warning signs of being bullied — depressed mood, physical ailments and school avoidance.
“It started small with her belly hurting. Then she didn’t want to go to school,” says Karen. “Samantha stopped doing homework and spent as much time in the nurse’s office as she did in classes.” Samantha missed 30 days of school that year due to bullying.
Finding a safe haven
To help her daughter get the tools she needed to manage the effects of being bullied, Karen reached out to Boston Children’s Bullying and Cyberbullying Prevention and Advocacy Collaborative (BACPAC).
Samantha and Karen met with the BACPAC team, including pediatric neurologist and BACPAC Program Director, Dr. Peter Raffalli. Samantha shared her story of victimization, learned skills to combat bullying and was given tools to promote self-empowerment.
“Samantha spoke for two hours, and she told the team about the bullying. She was happy that someone who wasn’t a loved one validated she was being bullied and it wasn’t her fault,” Karen recalls. “As she spoke, I could see the burden begin to lift from her shoulders.”
About Boston Children’s BACPAC program
The BACPAC program was founded in 2009 and was initially framed as an anti-bullying resource for physicians and caregivers, families and school administration. In 2011, Raffalli and a team of physicians launched a formal patient-centered clinic, which has treated over 100 children since its inception.
The program is housed in the hospital’s Department of Neurology because the pediatric neurology patient population – typically, children with ADHD, autism and other learning disabilities, are at a significantly higher risk for peer victimization than the general population.
The power of empowerment
Samantha completed the fifth grade and moved onto a regional middle school with greater strength and empowerment. The bully no longer attends the same school but now she has the tools needed to cope with challenging and stressful social situations should they present themselves in the future. When asked why she wanted to share her story, Samantha said without hesitation, “…because I don’t want any other kid to go through what I went through.”
“Samantha showed great courage and a determination to survive the situation,” Raffalli says. “She is very bright and articulate, and I am very impressed with her strength.”
|The BACPAC program is the first of its kind nationwide.“Our goal was to establish a program where children faced with bullying and cyberbullying could come to be heard, learn their rights under federal and state laws and learn strategies that might help end the abuse,” Raffalli says.
During their appointment, Raffalli offered Samantha and her Mom tools to combat bullying including:
• strategies to help end bullying situations and bullying-prevention advice for the future
• empowerment strategies on how to develop a network of adult staff at school that could be available to her and who could advocate for her at the level of the principal’s office when reporting bullying
• ways to improve Samantha’s friendship group as a strong friendship group (this has been shown to be an insulating factor against bullying)
• education regarding their rights under the Massachusetts anti-bullying legislation
• a list of various state agencies that could be called upon if the family feels the school is not adequately troubleshooting the situation
• reports and recommendations to share with the school in the hopes that the suggestions could be used by the school to protect Samantha
Samantha says she felt better about returning to school after visiting the BACPAC program and meeting Raffalli. “He made me feel happy and made me feel like even though I was getting bullied I could get through it.”
The BACPAC Program is located at
Boston Children’s Hospital, 300 Longwood Avenue, Boston, MA 02115, 617-355-6388